Healed

If you have not healed from the pain the past has brought you, the past can greatly impact this moments experiences. A simple lie I used to tell myself was that I came to earth by choice, I chose my parents, I chose the gender I was born, I chose my ethnicity the circumstance and the point in life that I was going to be born in. Not only did this give me power to deal with the situations I faced in my life, it gave me a sense of purpose as to keep going. I wanted this and now I am here. 

With this form of thinking you can really start to detach yourself from the painful experiences you had.

Take responsibility.